You’re freaking out. It’s time to chill.
THE PRESSURE IS ON
Not matter how experienced of an event planner you are, no matter your reputation of being notoriously organized, no matter how much yoga you practice, weddings can get stressful. It’s natural. A wedding is one of the most emotionally charged events of your life. It’s a lot of planning, money and energy, and it’s over in one day. You only marry that person once. Even if you remarry, even if you renew your vows, your wedding day is a unique day that happens once. Like anything in life, you cannot prepare yourself this event. You can control how you respond to what occurs. A calm, present mind will support you in enjoying your wedding day.
SHOULDING ALL OVER OURSELVES
Countless studies have demonstrated the benefits of meditation such as lowered anxiety, being more present, increased creativity, and overall feelings of happiness and bliss. Unfortunately for many of us, meditation falls into the “I should do that” bucket like drink eight cups of water, sleep for eight hours a night, and brush my teeth after each meal, to name a few. Why do we neglect these important things that better our health? We feel like we don’t have time, we don’t see the benefits, we don’t know how to structure it into our day, we don’t know where or how to start and/or we’re simply not committed.
Meditation is one of the easiest actions you can take… on paper. You sit, breathe, and think about nothing. This, however, can be one of the hardest things for a human to do. Emptying your mind, not thinking about your day with all the things you have to do, not reaching for your phone all take discipline. Learning to breathe to stay in the present moment isn’t a just a useful skill for your wedding. It’s a tool you can use for life. Here are some tips to beginning your meditation journey and chilling the fuck out.
If you don’t make time for it, it won’t happen. Simple as that. Find a time of day that works for you, i.e. in the morning or before bed.
This is your peaceful time of bliss so find a space where you can meditate that reflects the calm you are creating in your mind.
You don’t need to bend yourself into a pretzel. Sit on a cushion, yoga block, or blankets. Do keep your spine erect (don’t lean into a chair), relax your shoulders and neck, give a slight tuck to your chin, and close your eyes.
Breathe from your back, sides and lower abdomen. Breathe through your nose if you can and maintain a gentle pace.
Discover what works for your practice. Do you like music? Do you prefer a guided meditation? Find the apps, music, silence, singing bowl or whatever it is that you need.